Who do I Blame?
CRASH! The bumper of your car is ripped out because of the driver in front of you (or to the left of you, you don’t really know since you’re incredibly disoriented). You get out of your car in a complete daze, trying to find the person to point your finger at. It wasn’t your fault, and you were getting late for that important meeting, so this crash is really going to cost you your time. The other person’s license is now in your hand, you’re taking a photo for insurance purposes. A piece of your mind lies in that guy’s lap, scaring him, guilting him, and making sure he knows it was his mistake. Now think about what happened again, except this time not through the lens of the seething anger you were facing (if that was actually you). You might have lost 10 minutes due to the crash for your meeting. Maybe 15. But now, after arguing for 30 mins, you just lost a lot more. that consequence is not being faced by the perpetrator. It’s you facing it. It’s you who has to explain to your bo...
